How To Align Monogamy In A Relationship
Aligning is part of the maintenance
In my practice, I notice on a regular basis that partners are having relationship-issues because they think differently about...
Kink is a Hobby, not a Disorder
It's Friday afternoon, and you've taken your lunch break with some colleagues at your usual spot in the staff canteen. Conversations sway between the new...
Jay Tests : Cat’s Claw, and Victorian Governess Tawse
As you might know, I’m a kinkster. That’s why I’m happy Meo.de sent me these two Tawse in exchange for an honest review.
Tawse… what?
For...
Veto-Based Trust: Is That Trusting?
A lot of people (a LOT of people, including myself) who just “opened up” their relationship, that kind of security. It feels scary to...
Tess Tests: Broad City Yas Kween Bullet
When I spotted the new Broad City toys at Lovehoney, I immediately thought they looked super sweet. I never heard of the Broad City...
Tess Tests: Game of Chains
Even when you’re not into BDSM, it can sometimes be very exciting to use nipple clamps. You have nipple clamps in all kinds of...
Six Myths About BDSM Spanking
Consensual adult spanking is a cornerstone of BDSM. It’s such an amazing technique, because you need no props, you can do it anywhere, in...
Tess Tests: Liberator Wedge Ramp Combo
Liberator is a brand which I’ve known for years because of their sex pillows. Honestly, for a long time I thought “what should I...
Should I Let My Dom(me) Help Me With (Self) Discipline?
Self-discipline, self-appreciation and help of a Dom(me) This week Hans answers a reader's question...
Hi Hans, I want to ask my Dom(me) to help me...
Tess Tests: HURTME Ballbuster Paddle
If you, like I do, have been practicing BDSM for a very long time, you’ve also seen a lot of BDSM toys. I haven’t...